Sex 2.0 promotes binary thinking. Things are black or white. A zero or a one. On or off like a light switch.

You are either monogamous or polygamous.

You are either single or in a relationship.

You are either faithful or unfaithful.

Sex 2.0 may love binary thinking but such kind of thinking does not reflect human sexuality. Seeing relationships as either monogamous or polygamous is to look at them through the lens of Sex 2.0.

Looking at them through a Sex 3.0 lens, you will see that there are only two kinds of sexual relationships; fenced and unfenced. Now you may think that this is yet another example of binary thinking but it is not and here is why.

Firstly of course, both fenced and unfenced relationship can become false fenced. This is not advisable of course because fenced and unfenced relationships are like oil and water; they don’t mix. The false fencing of a relationship should only really be regarded as a failure of one or more of the 4 pillars of pure form relationships – communication, honesty, trust and respect.

Fenced, Unfenced Or Switch
Secondly, fenced and unfenced are the only two kinds of sexual relationship but, when you change from looking at how relationships are to looking at how people are, you will see that people can be either be fenced, unfenced or switch.

An unfenced person exclusively has unfenced relationships and has no interest at all in fenced relationships.

A fenced person exclusively has fenced relationships and has no interest at all in unfenced relationships.

A switch person may be interested in either fenced or unfenced relationships depending on a mixture of factors.

Anything from whether they are more emotionally amenable to taking on the extra burdens and expectations of a fenced relationship at this particular period of their life, their age, their desire for children and whether they can see their partner as the mother or father of their children, a high or low need for the promise of security that fenced might bring, their level or lack of insecurity or abundance or simply how much they are attracted to, attached to and pair-bonded with their partner.

Turning our attention away from that and looking purely to unfenced relationships we can see that unfenced relationships are not the same as polygamous relationships. There is a subtle but extremely important difference which I explained here.

What that means is that people in unfenced relationships can operate in one of several ways, for example:

Unfenced but with a primary or most preferred partner
Essentially this is a nest-straying and returning strategy with the nest being the relationship itself rather than necessarily a shared living space.

Establish the nest and allow yourself and each other to stray without the permission being sought or required. Should one or both partners be uninterested in exercising such an option then they don’t but as long as the option is always there, the relationship remains unfenced.

This is a perfect strategy for those wish to have the comfort and all the benefits of a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship and to maintain their freedom.

Unfenced with no primary or most preferred partner
A strategy more suited to those uninterested in nesting with a primary partner and then nest straying and returning.

Also suitable for people who are not interested in playing “favourites” or establishing the ranks of their sexual partners. Of course such people have certain sexual partners whose company they are more enamoured of but they don’t regard that as something that is significantly different than having certain friends who they have a particular bond with because of a shared history, mutual understanding and relationship dynamic that is unique to that person.

Of course, switching between the primary and no-primary strategies during an unfenced relationship is possible too.

Looking purely at fenced relationships you also see various strategies also including:

Strict fenced
Both parties promise fidelity and a discovered breach of fidelity means the end of the relationship.

Gated
A fenced relationship that’s not so strict. A rules and permission based nest–straying and returning strategy.

Swingers
A typically married couple that enjoys and permits casual encounters typically with other swingers.

Many might think of swingers as an unfenced relationship but as swingers are typically married and marriage is a fenced relationship then it’s basically a fenced relationship with a gate in the fence.

Remember, fenced does not equate to monogamy and unfenced does not equate to polygamy. Monogamy vs Polygamy is a Sex 2.0 binary concept.

People Are Not Binary
No matter how much binary thinking is promoted and how much enforced monogamy is regarded as the cultural norm, as it is in a Sex 2.0 world, it will never successfully model true human sexual nature.

In my last post I pointed out in my last post, human beings are both:
1. Natural pair-bonders and
2. Not lifelong monogamists by nature

The design of Sex 2.0 does not respect this but the design of Sex 3.0 does. That alone makes Sex 3.0 far more human.